The truth about my confidence and my business

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My confidence and my business

Imagine if you had more confidence growing up. What would you have done differently? Would you have stood up against a bully, participated more in school or joined that sports group you were too afraid to try out for?

Many girls suffer from low self-confidence. Girls particularly suffer from low body-esteem. In fact, the Dove Global Beauty and Confidence Report states that 7 in 10 girls with low body esteem say they won’t be assertive in their opinion or stick to their decision if they aren’t happy with the way they look. I know I fell into this group growing up.

 

Growing up without confidence is hard

I grew up shy and with low self-confidence. I had a few close friends, but I was never part of the “in crowd”. I was awkward all through elementary school, middle school and into high school.

Middle school is when I had the hardest time trying to fit in. In the middle of my eighth-grade year, my family moved an hour north, away from my hometown. Because I was shy, it was very difficult for me to make friends. I never had the confidence to join any groups or sports. I wasn’t involved with extracurricular activities, student council, or band. I was usually the last one picked in gym class and I hated all organized sports. I spent middle school and high school alone or with my small group of friends.

My only solace was art. I signed up for all the art classes I could. Something about being in art class spoke to me. It was a place I could go and create things that mattered to me. It was a place where it didn’t matter if you were different, unique, quirky or unconventional. Actually, that was kind of the norm in art class. I guess you could say I felt like I fit in there.

 

Building confidence takes time

Although I loved taking art classes, I still didn’t have the confidence to talk to new people or try new things. I wish I had taken advantage of organizations and mentors to help build my self-esteem and self-confidence.

It wasn’t until I was working in my first job after college as a graphics coordinator that I started to grow more confident in myself. I was gaining skills on the job and learning to find my own voice. I felt important and needed.

When I decided to start taking Muay Thai kickboxing classes I found a new passion and strength within myself I never had before. I began to feel strong and empowered.

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Break out of your comfort zone

Fast-forward a few years….and I’m married with a daughter, have a good job at a stable company, own a home and have small luxuries like most working class families. Something was missing, though. I wasn't fulfilled in my career anymore.

I wanted to be doing more meaningful work. I wanted to be doing something I loved.

I came to realize that being content and going through the motions isn’t living life to the fullest. It’s only scratching the surface of my potential. I wanted to achieve beyond what others thought I could. I wanted to push myself out of my comfort zone. I wanted to stop being afraid and start enjoying my life more.

I often wonder that if I had been more confident in myself, if I had not been so scared to try new things, or if I had the tools early in life to deal with self-doubt that I could have gone farther in life. If I had learned early on in life how to believe in myself and my abilities then my life would have had the meaning and purpose I’ve been aching for.

  

Be a role model

Realizing I wanted to be a role model for my daughter was the motivation I needed to break out and move forward. I wanted her to see me happy and enjoying life and my career. I didn't want her to see the stressed out me, the always rushing and always frustrated me. That wasn’t fair to her and it wasn’t fair to me either.

I soon became obsessed with discovering what my true strengths were and what I wanted to put out in the world. I tried several multi-level marketing companies and failed. I loved what they stood for, but they weren’t speaking to my heart. I couldn’t put my full energy into something that I wasn’t passionate about even if it promised the financial freedom I so needed.

 

dream big, be brave and be yourself

Business needs to speak from your heart

I found, for me, that money couldn’t be the sole purpose of my business.

Instead, my business had to have meaning, heart, and uniqueness.

Coming from someone who grew up not very confident, I felt obligated in a sense to create my business around inspiring young girls to believe in themselves. My hope is to build their confidence and self-worth.

When I started my business, I thought of my daughter. I thought of her having the highest confidence in herself and her talents. I don’t want her to be afraid to try like I was. So, I decided to use my strengths of art and design to create inspiring t-shirts for girls. Something fun for them to wear and an empowering way for girls to express themselves.

 

Help others believe in themselves

My brand is not about selling shirts, it’s about helping others find the inspiration they need to keep believing in themselves. I want to create a community for girls who need the inspiration to find their own voice and for moms who need the inspiration to keep going.

I want girls to feel they are strong, beautiful and unique. I want them to know their worth, to believe they are smart enough, creative enough and good enough. I want them to never give up on themselves, to stand out, inspire and show the world how bright they shine.

 

Check out some of my inspirational t-shirts by visiting my product page!